Archive for June, 2007

1993- Can we Talk.

as young children we learned why we shouldn’t ask for what we wanted. The looks and actions of those in authority clearly gave us the message that we were selfish for asking. Or we were openly told that asking was bad, wrong, or inappropriate in some way.

We’ve all heard these messages: money doesn’t grow on trees, don’t rock the boat, , there’s not enough to go around, or you should just be thankful for what you have. There were any number of these messages that taught us we live in a world of scarcity, we can never get what we really want, and we better just be happy with what we can get. And we learned it can be risky to ask for more than you have.

The problem with settling for less than what we really want is that it can lead to a sense of confusion, frustration, and dissatisfaction, not only for the people who limit themselves, but also for the people in their life who live with their dissatisfaction…

my point is I date a chick that I dont really feel like I Wanna grow old with ….you know settle down with( kwanza who said i want to settle down?? )and thenI dont know how to end it or how to end it without much fuss..or worse if ending it is a good reason at all cuz this is a long term thingie……and thats why this ka-song comes handy Tracy chapman ‘s -give me one reason …

often wananchi settle for what they think they can get instead of going for the best in those important areas of their life… often you see people plodding along in their jobs, relationships, or places to live so that it’s obvious they don’t enjoy what they have, or how often do you see people stop short of the little pleasures they really want by settling for things that are “good enough?”

There are a couple of reasons anyone settle for less. Usually it’s either out of fear or because they are disconnected from their values.

When it’s fear it can be: fear of failure, fear of loss of acceptance, fear of the unknown, or the big one: fear being disappointed. Fear often leaves people cynical and resigned that things could ever be better, and doubtful that they can have what they truly want. But recognizing that you’ve become cynical can be a good thing.

as Parting shot… this song is one of my greatest Oldies .from back in the 90’s… reminds me of jimmy gathu when he used to spot curled/treated hair and used to present Rythmix ,Jam a Delic on KTN … introducing . Tevin Campbell 1993 -Can we talk – Old school 4-life.

Heartbreaks za kitambo …

Dont listen to this if youre heart broken …you will leave worse than you came

N/B If Tear drops were penies my friend Odhis would be a millionare…

whats wrong with this picture?

ok so paris was released. yes They said so in CNN…

ok look at this picture carefully ..

1.Is that a black man’s arm streching out seeking paris hilton ? IF you was holding a paparazzi camera.. maybe i would understand .. but reaching your hand like a metrosexual…. nimekataaa.. my man …..!

2. Is that a a nyeuthi showing his white teeth next to paris ? (nyeuthis dont grin at blondes bana !)

ok I know its gay to blog about a paris .dont blame me all channels mpaka hata ESPN talked about this one hieress … but haaii those nyeuthi’s spoil the image of all black men .. I would understand if they were 15 year olds -18 olds… i could say they got raised in a white neighbourhood and still not sure of themselves BUT grown ass nyeuthi men acting all excited infront of a blonde…. what happened to the madingo warrior ?>

Why?

Why is that you get the girl you just don’t want and you never get the girl you really want? the probo is I penda one chile. and I know she pendas me too but just will not hook up with me and gives me that vybe of ati we are great friends..and sijui I don’t want to ruin our great friendship (WTF?) maaaam you hurt my balls when you say that…

ok now marriage so there is this chic Am thinking of crossing the bridge with… ok she look real nice..nice , great looks I know she pendas me but I have a lot of questions my man ….

1 Does she like me just because I am a ka “successful” jamaa as in do you penda me for me of me for the “$$$’s ” take NOTE of the ” ” cuz I am not successful at all am just an evarage joe paying uncle sams bills nothing else….

2 -Do inter-community marriages last? I Know this is stupid question but a times I wonder… what will happen when love and $$$ runs out… will she run to her relatives in machakos and sema that the last chief of Kapcheptorio has gone broke?

3 – Education means zero when it comes to dating but I rather a chick who likes me for me and not me for my education and so called earning potential cuz the day that earning capacity ends or fails to take off she will be gone too… big swali si what about wifey ??Does education levels of wifey to be matter? Well what will happen in future? Will the different academic credentials become a challenge?

4 Are you that chikkka that makes me wanna take you to my mama house? kinda girl I wanna chew all over that bubble gum ? are you gonna direct me like traffic ?? do you have the aquifina that make the boys wanna wife you?

4 Is it too early to think of marrying?? When do you say yes I am ready for the big leap…?

N/B

I am very disappointed with you. I just hope what I heard about you is not true because everyone is talking about it. If the rumor is true, please, please, for your sake, just do something about your tainted image, and change for the better. Now, tell me, is it true what people are saying, DO YOU REALLY BATH NAKED?

Sex: A Story in Three Dates

ok leos i must blog about our most favourite subject ….. pudesh related vybe.. and kwanza on like on overdrive mode …..not that its is something new becuase every 6 seconds of my life I COMPLETELY deviate from the present to the sexpresent …. i.e every normal male who does not need Viagra would do that……..

Ever wonder why it typically takes three dates to get it? It’s because the road to sex is a narrative unto itself, and thusly incorporates the traditional three act structure of storytelling:

Act I

We start with our opening. On a FIRST DATE we establish the main characters of the story. Most productions of “Sex” have only two characters, unless we’re experiencing a popular offshoot called THE LOVE TRIANGLE, or the indie-alternative ORGY.

In establishing our characters the basic reconnaissance should reveal things like: name, age, what you do for fun, what you do for boredom, favorite books/movies/music, positions on celebrity/pop culture, are you smarter than a 8-4-4 product without the last 4 …, etc. Once the information has been received for processing, the characters will now begin to evaluate their feelings about each other based on this basic outline.

At some point during the opening someone needs to do something out of sort. In screenplay writing this is called the INCITING INCIDENT. It leads to the second act. If you don’t get this inciting incident you don’t have a story. Instead you have a sucky first date and no follow-up. Either character can spark the inciting incident, but traditionally the male character will do something that puts himself on the line. The cliché means of doing this is to make some sexually provocative remark. This comment will necessitate a prompt response from the other character creating an incident or dialogue that leads us into the second a date …

ACT II

We now have an inciting incident, and with the basic outline of the characters in place we can now establish a DYNAMIC STORYLINE. An original phrase I just concocted, the dynamic storyline begins when both characters have finished PRELIMINARY JUDGINGS and established the balance of power. This is usually determined soon after the inciting incident, i.e. the guy stumbles and now the girl is in command, or the guy nails it and now the female is playing catch-up. The bulk of the second date is created by this balance of power swinging back-and-forth. The more swings, the more dynamic, the better the story, the more compelling the relationship. This all has to be done within the confines of the characters we’ve established (i.e. that nerdy-ass white guy can’t up and change into a cool assimilated negro on a whim) The second act can be of varying lengths, but it usually represents the bulk of the date ..

Act III

The third date begins when you have an incident more compelling than the first, that creates a MOMENT OF CHOICE. The choice is whether you’ll be proceeding to sex, or determining the story thus far has been insufficiently entertaining and to be abandoned. Anyone can instigate this moment, but whoever sparks it determines the balance of power leading into the GRAND FINALE.

At this point the day will close with an EPIC SEX SCENE. This grand finale will either disappoint or You may get a XXX story, Or you may end up with a nice romantic comedy, with dates and love and emotions rising and falling.

thats your sex 101 class. till next time Class!

N/B most of my /our agemates still have approx 20 more years of viagra free life….. beyond that am not sure IF this topic will be applicable without knowing the price of viagra.. sad but that the truth awaiting every jamaaa in this building!! kweli /rongo?

Interesting …

The soundtrack of blood diamonds is something… wonder who composed it …

watch/listen to it on this compilation ….

I particulary like when leo decaprio tells the black guy ..”

“Because you ask a hell of a lot of questions, my man”

Sex: A Story in Three Dates

ok leos i must blog about our most favourite subject ….. pudesh related vybe.. and kwanza on like on overdrive mode …..not that its is something new becuase every 6 seconds of my life I COMPLETELY deviate from the present to the sexpresent …. i.e every normal male who does not need Viagra would do that……..

Ever wonder why it typically takes three dates to get it? It’s because the road to sex is a narrative unto itself, and thusly incorporates the traditional three act structure of storytelling:

Act I

We start with our opening. On a FIRST DATE we establish the main characters of the story. Most productions of “Sex” have only two characters, unless we’re experiencing a popular offshoot called THE LOVE TRIANGLE, or the indie-alternative ORGY.

In establishing our characters the basic reconnaissance should reveal things like: name, age, what you do for fun, what you do for boredom, favorite books/movies/music, positions on celebrity/pop culture, are you smarter than a 8-4-4 product without the last 4 …, etc. Once the information has been received for processing, the characters will now begin to evaluate their feelings about each other based on this basic outline.

At some point during the opening someone needs to do something out of sort. In screenplay writing this is called the INCITING INCIDENT. It leads to the second act. If you don’t get this inciting incident you don’t have a story. Instead you have a sucky first date and no follow-up. Either character can spark the inciting incident, but traditionally the male character will do something that puts himself on the line. The cliché means of doing this is to make some sexually provocative remark. This comment will necessitate a prompt response from the other character creating an incident or dialogue that leads us into the second a date …

ACT II

We now have an inciting incident, and with the basic outline of the characters in place we can now establish a DYNAMIC STORYLINE. An original phrase I just concocted, the dynamic storyline begins when both characters have finished PRELIMINARY JUDGINGS and established the balance of power. This is usually determined soon after the inciting incident, i.e. the guy stumbles and now the girl is in command, or the guy nails it and now the female is playing catch-up. The bulk of the second date is created by this balance of power swinging back-and-forth. The more swings, the more dynamic, the better the story, the more compelling the relationship. This all has to be done within the confines of the characters we’ve established (i.e. that nerdy-ass white guy can’t up and change into a cool assimilated negro on a whim) The second act can be of varying lengths, but it usually represents the bulk of the date ..

Act III

The third date begins when you have an incident more compelling than the first, that creates a MOMENT OF CHOICE. The choice is whether you’ll be proceeding to sex, or determining the story thus far has been insufficiently entertaining and to be abandoned. Anyone can instigate this moment, but whoever sparks it determines the balance of power leading into the GRAND FINALE.

At this point the day will close with an EPIC SEX SCENE. This grand finale will either disappoint or You may get a XXX story, Or you may end up with a nice romantic comedy, with dates and love and emotions rising and falling.

thats your sex 101 class. till next time Class!

N/B most of my /our agemates still have approx 20 more years of viagra free life….. beyond that am not sure IF this topic will be applicable without knowing the price of viagra.. sad but that the truth awaiting every jamaaa in this building!! kweli /rongo?